Leaving can be dangerous. Talk with a friend or counsellor to plan the safest way to leave.

Decide whether you will take your children with you or leave them with someone safe.

Have a safe destination in mind – the home of a friend or family member; a shelter, safe home, motel or hotel; or another city.

Get legal advice about getting a peace bond or restraining order to keep your abuser away from you.

Put some money away in a safe place.

Plan to bring a few essentials, including clothes for a few days for you and your children.

If you have a court order, keep it with you at all times. Leave a copy at work, in your car or with a friend.

Call Social Services for information on financial assistance.

Get legal advice about custody, immigration and housing issues.

Tell your neighbours and landlord that your abuser no longer lives with you.

Tell them to call the police if they see your abuser near your home.

Ask your landlord if you can change the locks on your doors and windows.

Practice a safety plan with your children and tell the school or daycare who has permission to pick up your children (give them a copy of your Family Court papers if you have them).

Change your phone number

If you are thinking of returning to your abuser, talk to someone about your safety.

Think about joining a women’s support group or doing one-on-one counselling.